In junior high, three of my girlfriends and I always sat in the same pew every Sunday at church. Bethany, Shannon, Angie and I sat on the second pew in the aisle all the way on the right. We usually spent the hour of church whispering, writing notes on the bulletin, and planning our next slumber party.
Rusty Faulkner is a man who attends my church back home. He and his wife sat in the pew behind us.
Rusty was a veterinarian with red hair and a goatee. I remember thinking that he was one of the cool adults at the church and I always liked him. I used to imagine what he would look like in a lab coat, the way my dogs' veterinarian dressed.
One time, in all the years I went to Ankeny Christian Church, the four of us girls actually sat still and paid attention to the sermon. At the end of the hour, Rusty leaned forward, put his hand on my shoulder and complimented me on my decorum.
I had no idea what decorum was but I knew that I was so happy that Rusty complimented me. I went home that afternoon and searched the dictionary for the meaning of decorum.
I found out yesterday that Rusty had a stroke on Monday. He's now in his 80's, which I can't fathom him being a day older than the last time I saw him. I can't imagine him with any other color hair, than red.
I found out today that they have moved Rusty to hospice. That he won't be alive much longer.
I haven't spoken to Rusty Faulkner in years and yet I feel sad that he's dying. I feel sad for his wife. And I wish I would have had more Sunday services where I practiced excellent decorum. Just, if not for anything else, to have Rusty put his hand on my shoulder and smile at me.